Women and their sex toys

Not too long ago, a number of women attended a seminar with Nancy Matto, who explored the increasingly popular use of sex toys among married couples. Matto, who facilitated the seminar, works primarily as health care provider in the sexual health field. Throughout the discussion, she reminded participants of the following:
1. Sex toys are not replacement for men 
2. In the lives of sexually frustrated women, vibrators are just one of a large inventory of sex toys 
3. Men and women can and do use sex toys to enhance their lovemaking 
4. In spite of the growing knowledge about these pleasurable little tools many men still wallow in ignorance and the fear that the toys are a replacement for them. 

This week we asked men, all of whom requested privacy, to share how they would react if their partner brought a sex toy into the bedroom. One said he would have conditions on his wife's use of sex toys and would want to know why she needs it.  Others wondered if a vibrator means that she's not being satisfied. Some added that they did not mind as long as the woman did not deny them, and did not seek to replace them.  One gentleman said, 'I would not be averse to their use as long as I'm participating--or if I'm away for a long time, I'd feel better with her using a toy than going to someone else.' Another reported, 'It also depends on the type of toy! I would not have a problem with it because if you fall into a routine of sameness in the bedroom your sex life will decline. You have to be open to new ideas and new ways of doing old things.' Still another participant said, 'I, of course, would welcome it. I think they are wonderful playthings and any time my wife becomes excited about trying something, I'm happy.'

Yet, not everyone was positive.  'I would be very upset,' said one man, 'I would feel like it's to replace me--I would never go near them or want to see them round the house.' Others were ambivilent. 'I would never use them but if she wants to she can go ahead and experiment. I would not stop her I am excellent in bed the only thing I will use is vibrators.' Some took a more adventurous stance, saying 'I will do anything in my bedroom to make my wife happy--anything she wants to experience with me behind closed doors is fine with me that brings her pleasure I am happy!'

Sex toys are your friends, said Matto, a point some men seemed to agree with. 'If I am unable to do what the sex toy can do,' admitted one man, 'then it is fine.  'However,' he added, 'I'm very happy, but I would want to know if she got it out of a need or out of mere curiosity. I think I am more than capable of doing anything a toy can do.'

Others commented briefly:

'It depends on the toy and on which of us it will be used!' 

'If it's for penetration we have a problem.'

'I have always had an open mind so I would not feel threatened.'

'I have not been exposed to sex toys neither has my wife but based on what I know I don't think I would be interested.'

'I am open to new experiences because in a marriage after a while you need new stimulants.'

'The use of sex toys should be mutual.'

What do you think? Should married couples use sex toys, or is it a sign that something is wrong?