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Sunday 28 August 2011

Four Foreplay Tips for Better Sex

Generally speaking, we all want great sex, right?  But, at least for many guys, foreplay is considered more of a formality than a necessity.  Women, on the the other hand, are wired for foreplay.  How then, do we bring these two types together?  Simple, each side needs to make an effort to engage in foreplay that the other side can receive.  Here are some ways to do just that:  
1.  Foreplay, guys, involves more than touching your wife five minutes prior to doing the deed.  Of course, you already know that.  It can start with a non-routine, flirtatious call from work, where you tell her how desirable she is, how you can't wait to get home, and what you plan to do to her when you arrive.  When she asks 'What got into you?', just snicker like a teenager.  
2. Another way for guys to do creative foreplay involves doing something practical before bed: giving the kids a bath, load the dishwasher, tidy up the living room, whatever.  If these are things she usually does every night (usually without complaint!), she'll appreciate that you've given her a break.  Try saying something like, 'While I'm doing this, you can have a cup of tea/read your book/check your email/ etc.'  The point is to help her unwind before bed, rather than expecting her to rush from one activity to another, then to the bedroom.  It is all about allowing her to get into an unhurried and receptive state of mind.  Of course, we ought to be doing these things anyway because we love our spouse, but perhaps we don't realize that simple things like helping out can be a type of foreplay.  You can ask her later, with a wink and a smile: 'So, is it true that a man is never sexier than when he is helping out around the house?'
3. For women, please realize that guys are primarily visual (you probably already knew that), and that physical touch goes a long way (probably knew that too).  Sometimes it is good to be reminded that they will interpret foreplay through these two channels.  So why not be the instigator?  Even if you don't feel like sex, you may be surprised by how turned on you become when you become the pursuer, rather than the pursued.  You can (and should) be subtle about it, however.  Try brushing up against him while he's doing something routine like reading the newspaper, or unbutton your blouse a couple buttons then playfully lean over in his line of sight and catch him looking at your cleavage...give him a wink and say something like 'you naughty boy.'  Or why not get the fires burning early in the day by reaching into his front pocket before work and saying 'I just wanted to see if you had any spare change'.  Trust me, he will respond, and he'll probably be home early! 
4.  It goes without saying that learning to shut off the TV, especially if you have one in the bedroom (a BIG no no!), is crucial to making foreplay work.  It is hard to flirt with one another if, in the background, there is a glowing box blasting canned laughter, the sound of gunshots, or a news anchor's voice as they run through a list of the day's tragedies.  Shut it off and turn each other on.

The point is to make foreplay fun, creative, and to engage in it outside the bedroom.  This article was brought to you by The Christian Bedroom, where couples can find luxury sex toys, meant to enhance their sex life together as husband and wife.  

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